My first book is about to be released in print. It's exciting, but at the same time it is frightening. I'm still not positive that I said what I wanted to say exactly the way I wanted to say it, but I think I came pretty close.

Most of the books I have read regarding abuse survivors have been overwhelmingly negative, they talk about the after effects, the nightmares, the flashbacks, the fear of intimacy, the inability to trust.

Those things certainly are byproducts of abuse, but along with the negative consequences come a great many skills that can actually help us when we see them for what they are.

Yes, survivors often have every reason to view the world as a negative place, but in the end that negativity only hurts us. The world is also a positive place, full of life affirming experiences. Life is beautiful but first we have to choose that beauty.

I can't tell you how often I have heard survivors describe themselves as broken, I have done so myself many times, but most of us really are far less broken than we imagine ourselves to be. What has been broken can be fixed, but far too many give up the hope of healing before they even start.

Life itself is a path that each of us must travel, and healing is only a part of that path if you choose to follow it.

Sometimes we tend to think of healing as a destination, thinking that some day we will finally be able to say, "that's it, I am healed." When we focus only on the destination we are missing the greatest things that life has to offer, it is the journey that is important, and as long as we keep ourselves moving towards healing, we can and will heal.

If we keep putting one foot in front of the other, if we just keep going no matter what gets in the way we will heal, but healing is a process, and that process continues throughout our lifetime.

In the end, where we have been isn't near as important as how far we have come.

"We are men, we are women, we are young and we are old. We all have our own unique stories, it hardly seems we have anything in common at all, but we are a family. We are a family because of what we do have in common. We are a family joined not by blood, but by spirit.

We are survivors, and we are stronger than any of us truly know or understand."

Excerpt from the upcoming book
'Sister, Survivor'
by Ayngel "Boshemia" Overson